Healing the Broken Hearted
Part 3 — Wounds (Wednesday, August 12, 2026)
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7BUVFqjOH1I • Materials: Wounds slides and speaker notes
Main Points
How a wound becomes infected
Jesus calls Satan Beelzebub, “lord of the flies”; flies feed on and lay eggs in open, festering wounds
An untended wound doesn’t stay still; left unaddressed, hurt can open a door to the demonic
From hurt to bondage (the progression)
1. Hurt: an injury, real or perceived
2. Offense: a sharp reaction of hurt or anger (“offenses will come”); don’t let the sun go down on it
3. Resentment: a long-lasting, festering feeling
4. Bitterness: earthly and demonic; judgments, walls, self-justification
5. Bondage: distrust, suspicion, walls, suppressed emotions, victimhood, depression, rage, fear and control
How do I heal?
Ask: did someone sin against me? Who exactly? What was the sin, or was it only perceived?
If it was a brother or sister in Christ: go to them (Matthew 18) and be kind and tender-hearted
If it was an unbeliever: the first step is still forgiveness
What forgiveness is and is not
It is the nature of Christ, releasing heaven on earth
It takes only one person; you release your right to vengeance
It entrusts justice to God
It is a decision that may need renewing in layers
It is NOT reconciliation, which takes two people; you can only fully reconcile with the wise
After forgiveness: walking it out
Choose sonship or daughterhood over victimhood (God works all things for good)
Choose the Word over emotions; put on the garment of praise
Stop recirculating thoughts; take every thought captive
Give no place to the devil: no gossip, slander or walls
Spend time with Jesus, the Shepherd and Overseer of your soul
Self-inflicted wounds
Disobedience, ungodly relationships and soul ties, perceived slights, unrealistic expectations
Healing: repent to God and to the people affected, end the ungodly relationship, and invite God to heal
How do I know I’m healed?
No more triggers (triggers are red flags to bring to God)
Peace in your soul
Trusting God instead of controlling
Being able to pray for the person with a pure heart
Pastoral word and Q&A
The church is a family in a perfection process; unhealed wounds will tear it apart like natural families
Distinguish real trauma from perceived or “church” hurt; let God use an imperfect world to form Christ in you
Offense (skandalon) is the enemy’s bait
Processing without gossip: check your motive and talk only to people who are part of the solution (pastors, life group leaders)
Suppressed wounds: ask the Holy Spirit to reveal what you can’t see
Triggers vs. awareness: awareness is wisdom without the emotional charge; discernment out of self-protection is suspicion
Scriptures Referenced
Matthew 12:24 — Beelzebub, the ruler of demons (“lord of the flies”)
Luke 17:1 / Matthew 18:7 — Offenses will come
Ephesians 4:26–27 — Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your wrath; give no place to the devil (the speaker said “4:6”)
James 3:14–15 — Bitterness in your heart is earthly, unspiritual, demonic (the speaker said “3:13”)
Hebrews 12:15 — Lest any root of bitterness springing up cause trouble and defile many
Matthew 18:15–16 — If your brother sins against you, go to him alone
Ephesians 4:32 — Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving one another (the speaker said “4:22”)
Romans 12:19 — Vengeance is Mine, says the Lord
Romans 8:28 — All things work together for good
Joshua 24:15 — As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord
2 Corinthians 5:7 — We walk by faith, not by sight
Isaiah 61:3 — The garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness
2 Corinthians 10:5 — Take every thought captive
1 Peter 2:25 — Returned to the Shepherd and Overseer of your souls
Proverbs 6:16–19 — Six things the Lord hates… one who sows discord among brethren
James 3:6 — The tongue… is set on fire by hell
Scripture references are as cited or quoted in the session. Corrections are noted where the speaker’s spoken reference differed from the passage quoted.
Reflection / Homework
Walk one hurt through the progression: where is it now (offense, resentment, bitterness, bondage)?
Name who sinned against you and what the sin was, then choose to forgive and release them to God
Ask the Holy Spirit about self-inflicted wounds and soul ties, then repent and invite healing