SLIDE 1
Wounds: Processing Wounds from the Perspective of the CROSS vs the Perspective of Victim
SLIDE 2
Def: Wounds: An injury to the heart caused by something that happened to you.
How Wounds Occur:
Wounds can occur, when OTHERS SIN against us
Wounds can occur when WE SIN AGAINST God by DISOBEDIENCE. These wounds are self Inflict wounds.
Ex: Relationships, Boyfriends, Toxic Friendships, Believing LIES
Speaker Notes not to be included on ppt.
Ex: David sinned and slept w/ Bathesheba
Ps 38:3 There is no soundess in my flesh b/c of your indignation; there is no health in my bones b/c of my sin. (5) My wounds stink and fester b/c of my foolishness. (7) for my sides are filled w/ burning and there is no soundness in my flesh.
Wounds can occur when we PERCEIVE someone sinned against us yet no actual sin can be identified.
We can become wounded when expectations arent met
Unmet expections lead to wounds
We can become wounded when our feelings get hurt
Hurt feelings don’t mean sin was committed
Hurt feelings can fester like a wounds and become infected.
We can become wounded when we don’t get our way
We view not getting our way as REJECTION
Slide 3
How a WOUND BECOMES INFECTED:
In Mt 12 Jesus refers to the devil as Beelzebub, which means ‘Lord of the Flies’
Open wounds attracts flies. Flies induce infection. Infection untreated can lead to death
Adult flies are attracted to the smell of open sores, pus, decaying flesh as a signal of food source.
A female fly and lay eggs 100’s of eggs directly on or near the injured skin
which hatch w/in 24 hrs into maggots (worm-like baby flies).
The maggots use tiny mouthparts to feed on the tissue.
While some fly species only eat dead, decaying flesh, more dangerous species actively burrow deep into healthy living tissue, muscle, and bone
Slide 4
From Hurt to Bondage: How a Wound Becomes Infected
How this works spiritually
We Become ‘Hurt’ from an Event.
We then take OFFENSE (a reaction or feeling of anger, or hurt)
Jesus said OFFENSES WILL COME Lk 17:1
OFFENSE leads to RESENTMENT.
Offense is an immediate, sharp reaction but RESENTMENT is a long-lasting, festering bitter feeling that builds up over time.
This is why scripture warns us in Eph 4:26 Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, and give no opportunity to the devil.”
But Don’t let the sun go down on your anger b/c over time the Offense leads to Resentment
RESENTMENT leads to BITTERNESS
James 3:13 says..but if you have bitterness in your hearts, this is earthly, unspiritual, demonic.
Bitterness is an open door to the demonic.
Here Judgements are Formulated (legal decisions made)
Internal Walls are Built
You become justified in your emotions & responses
“Make sure that no one falls short of the grace of God and that no root of bitterness springs up, causing trouble and defiling many. Hebrews 12:15
BITTERNESS becomes BONDAGE
New Behavior Patterns are Created
Lack of Trust
Suspicion
Build Walls
Lack of Vulnerability
Suppressed Emotions.
Wrong Emotions
Victim
Oppression/Depression
Rage
Suicide
Independence &Rebellion
Fearful & Controlling
Slide 5
How Do I Heal?
1. Did someone SIN against you?
2. WHO Sinned Against You…..ALL MEN, The whole church, my whole family
3. What was the SIN.
BOX 1: Was it a PERCEIVED Offense?
Or are you PERCEIVING a Sin was committed. (No intentionality) Misunderstanding
Did you take up another’s offense? (Someone sinned against someone else)
** We will address this in the end of our Presentation
BOX 2: Were they a Brother or Sister in Christ?
Mt 18 If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother. But if he does not listen, take one or two others along with you, that every charge may be established by the evidence of two or three witnesses.
Work through it together …. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.” Eph 4:32
Or…Were they a Sinner? (SINNERS WILL SIN)
Step 1: Forgive: Forgiveness is a Nature of Christ. When you choose to forgive you are releasing Heaven into the earth.
SLIDE 6: The Nature of Forgiveness: (The devil can’t forgive—Only God)
Forgiveness Releases Heaven into Earth
Forgiveness takes 1 person to Release your right to personal vengeance. Choosing NOT to hold another person’s sin against them.
Entrusting justice to God Romans 12:19 Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.
A decision that may need to be renewed as painful memories resurface.
Forgiveness is being able to Pray for their Salvation: Pray for those who HURT you. To KNOW God. To Find His Love and Forgiveness
And Ask Father to heal your pain.
Forgiveness Does Not Necessarily Mean Reconciliation
Reconciliation takes 2 ppl
Scripture speaks of 3 types of ppl: Wise, Fools and Evil ppl
You can choose to Forgive any Person But You can only reconcile w/ WISE ppl
SLIDE 7: I Have Forgiven. What’s Next?
Choose sonship over victimhood
Ro 8:28 8 And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who[a] have been called according to his purpose.
Chose the Word of God over Emotions
2 Co 5:7 We walk by Faith and Not by Sight
Isa 61:3 Put on the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness.
Stop Recirculating Thoughts
2Co 10:5 We cast down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ,
Idle mind is the devils workshop
Phip 4:8 Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.
Give No place to the Devil
Eph 4:26 Be angry, and do not sin”: do not let the sun go down on your wrath,
Do not return to Resentment, bitterness
Do not gossip, defame
Do not BUILD WALLs
Spend time w/ Jesus
1Pe 2:25 For you were like sheep going astray, but have now returned to the Shepherd and [a]Overseer of your souls.
SLIDE 8: Healing a Self Inflicted Wound
What are SELF INFLICTED WOUNDS?
We disobeyed God
Got into an ungodly relationship (Friendship or Romantic)
Created a Soul tie
We put ourselves in a position that God did not design and God did not bail us out (mad at God)
Wounds are formed our those BROKEN Relationships
Are you PERCEIVING a Sin was committed. (No actual sin can be identified)
We misunderstood someone
We felt left out, not included
Our feeling were hurt (No sin was committed
Hurt feelings can fester like wounds.
When Our unrealistic expectations were not met
We did not get our way. —- lead to hurt emotions..resentment
(teach our children)
How to HEAL If your wound was self inflicted
REPENT to God. You opened the door. You disobeyed God
Ask forgiveness from those whom your decisions effected
Ask God to Heal your Wounds / Emotions
SLIDE 9: How do I Know If I am Healed?
No more Triggers
You experience Peace in Your Soul
You Trust God, No need to Control
You can pray for that person w/ a pure heart
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AM I WOUNDED? Root Analysis
Areas effected by our WOUNDS
Physical Body
Sickness
Ps 38 There is no soundness in my flesh, because of your indignation; there is no health in my bones because of my sin…. My wounds stink and fester because of my foolishness…… my sides are filled with burning, and there is no soundness in my flesh.
Mind
Obsessed
Depressed
Fearful
Insecure
Believing Demonic Lies
Emotions & Behaviors
Guarded / Defensive
Hard Hearted, Angry
Blocked Emotions: Separated from Pain and Vulnerability
Controlling, Fearful
Anger, Rejection, Shame, Guilt, Offended, Sarcastic, Bitter
Spirit
Blame God, Angry at God, Question God..WHY???
Don’t TRUST God
Wounds Open Door to the Demonic: Fear, Failure, Isolation, Loneliness, Shame, CONTROL, Rejection, Rebellion, Depresion, Trauma, Revenge, Suicide