A JOURNEY OF FAITH & HEALING
Becoming Human
as God Intended
LIFE TRANSFORMED : H EALING W OUNDS
QUESTIONS
HANDOUTS
HEALING THE BROKEN HEARTED
Jesus came to heal broken hearts, to set the captives free, and to destroy the works of the devil.
Psalm 147:3 (NKJV)
He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.
Isaiah 61:1; LUKE 4 (NKJV)
The Spirit of the Lord God is upon Me, Because the Lord has anointed Me To preach good tidings to the poor; He has sent
Me to heal the brokenhearted, To proclaim liberty to the captives, And the opening of the prison to those who are bound.
1 John 3:8b (NKJV)
For this purpose the Son of God was manifested to destroy the works of the devil.
WHY IS HEALING IMPORTANT?
To become human
as God intended,
our hearts must be
made whole…and
this includes the
healing of wounds.
4 MAIN DOORS OF OPPRESSION
Jesus said,
“The Spirit of
the Lord is
upon me…to
set at liberty
those who are
oppressed.”
Luke 4:18
INVISIBLE (SOUL) WOUNDS
Invisible, yet deep wounds can occur in our hearts
and souls when others sin against us or when we
are apart of hurtful situations.
Wounding may result when harmful things are
done to us and also when good/right things are not
done for us.
The impact of such hurt can be traumatic, lasting
far beyond the initial event and negatively
effecting our emotions, identity, behavior patterns,
thoughts, beliefs, and memories.
UNHEALED WOUNDS CAN CAUSE
MORE PAIN
Additionally, a wounded person can cause self-injury and
exacerbate their pain through SINFUL RESPONSES to their initial hurt: anger/rage, revenge, bitterness, or unforgiveness
(Eph 4:26, Gal 5:20, Heb 12:15, Matt 5:34-35).
Healing of Wounds is Critical
Galatians 5:1 – For freedom, Christ set us free, Now make sure
that you stay free, and don’t get tied up again in slavery (i.e., yoke of bondage).
What are some
areas in your
identity that you
need to work on?
PERVASIVE EFFECTS OF SOUL
WOUNDS
Physical Body Vulnerability
Behavior Sinful Responses
Mind Open Doors…
Emotions Demonic spirits…
Spirtual Further Bondage
Understand Your Family of Origin
The family unit that you grew up in is your
family of origin.
Often includes parents and siblings, but also is
inclusive of other relatives or people who lived
with you during part of your childhood.
We are strongly influenced in who we become
by those who raised us and the significant
others within that family group.
COMMON SOUL WOUNDS
Father wounds and Mother wounds are those
inflicted by our primary caregivers and/or biological
parents.
Healing of such parental wounding often corrects
how we see God as Heavenly Father and how we
receive Him as El Shaddai (Gen 17:1, the God who
is strong enough to help and sensitive enough to
care), our Ultimate Caregiver.
Father Wounds
Fathers are meant to provide, protect,
and give identity.
What happens when a father is
negligent, absent, or abusive?
Father wounds can produce a lack of
security, identity, or provision, which
may allow entrance of an orphan spirit
or normalized feelings of rejection and
abandonment.
Negative Results of Father Wounds
Need for approval
Perfectionism
Fear / Insecurity
Unhealthy Competitiveness
Sons, specifically, may have
difficulty submitting to men or be
extremely angry/rebellious
Mother Wounds
Mothers are meant to nurture, comfort,
and teach.
What happens when a mother is
negligent, absent, or abusive?
Mothers wounds can cause
developmental deficits in love and
affection, which often leads to
insecurity and a subconscious or
desperate search for belonging,
comfort, and connection.
How Mother Wounds Impact Daughters
Lack of Confidence – the unloved daughter does not
know that she is loveable or worthy of attention:
o May have grown up feeling criticized, unheard, unseen, or ignored.
o Develops an internal voice of mother telling her that she is ugly, unworthy, dumb/stupid or not good enough.
Lack of Trust – “experienced love as involving
obsession, a desire for reciprocation and union,
emotional highs and lows, and extreme sexual
attraction and jealousy” …distrusts results.
How Mother Wounds Impact Daughters
Attachment/Attraction Issues
o Excessive attachment to women; may
manifest as relationally needy or even in
same-sex attraction.
o Excessive attraction to men; unhealthily
dependent, clingy, and/or promiscuous.
Poor Self Image
Manifestation of negative and hurtful
things heard and believed when young.
How Mother Wounds Impact Sons
Lack of Emotional Regulation
o Anger – easily set off (0-10), always mad
o Hostility – ongoing resentment/striving
o Aggression – unable to interact peaceably
Attachment/Attraction Issues
o Womanizing, projecting hurt/pain from
mother wound into relationships.
o Feminization, attempt to please or
emulate mother.
DEALING WITH SINFUL RESPONSES
TO FATHER/MOTHER WOUNDS
The effects and impacts of parental wounding are often made worse by the sinful responses of a son/daughter.
In addition to asking Jesus to heal the wound, one must also take responsibility for any sinful response:
- Repentance – John 5:14, 8:11
- Releasing Bitterness – Hebrews 12:15
- Extending Forgiveness – Matthew 6:12, 14-15; 11:25-26
FORGIVENESS IS CRITICAL
Forgiveness is not optional; as a child of God YOU NEED to forgive others.
1. It is in the nature and redemptive plan of God to forgive humanity.
(Ps 86:5; Ps 103:2-4; Jer 31:34)
2. As an act of faith and in accordance with the principals of sowing and reaping, God’s children are to continually practice forgiving others (Hos 10:12; Gal 6:7-10; Mat 18:21-22)
3. Frees the one extending forgiveness from torment (Mat 18:21-35)
UNDERSTAND FORGIVENESS
3. Forgiveness is the willful act of releasing those who have sinned against us; in forgiveness we release the individual from owing us anything and free them from being obligated to us in accordance with their sin.
(Matthew 6:12, 2 Cor 2:10)
4. Forgiveness DOES NOT
1. Justify or excuse sinful behavior (Ezekiel18:20)
2. Result or require automatic reconciliation of relationship (Numbers
12:9-15)
3. Dismiss the need for maintaining clear, healthy boundaries when necessary (Amos 3:3)
QUESTIONS
Healing is the Children’s Bread
Jesus Came to Heal the
Brokenhearted
1. Acknowledge the wound within – Jer 17:14
2. Identify and judge our behavior patterns – I Cor 11:32
3. Forgive and release those who hurt us – Matt 6:12
4. Ask the Lord to heal our heart – Ps 41:4
5. Invite the Lord to fill the gaps as El Shaddi, to be our father and mother – Ps 27:10
6. Walk with Holy Spirit to stay free – Gal 5:1
EFFECTS OF SOUL WOUNDS
HURT PEOPLE HURT PEOPLE
Hiding behind masks/ Living in a healthy
relational dynamic
Fear|Shame|Control cycle
Relationship with God affected –
disappointment